Hear The Judgement And Do It Anyway

You’ll be told that you’re too naive.

Or that you’re too experienced in “the old, outdated ways.”

You’ll be told that you’re too idealistic. Or far too realistic.

You’ll be told that you’re too skinny, or too fat. Too old, or too young. Too nice, or not nice enough.

You’ll be told that you’re too rich, or not rich enough. You’ve suffered too much in your life, or you haven’t suffered enough. You don’t know the right people, or you’re way “too connected” to all the right people. You’re too tall, or you’re too short. Or you don’t live in the right country, or don’t go to the right school. Or you do live in the right country or go the right school but it’s way too competitive—and no matter how hard you try you won’t be able to make it.

You’ll be told that you don’t have the right upbringing, or you don’t have the right gender, or sexuality, or race. Or you’ll be told that you do have the right upbringing, the right gender, the right sexuality, or race, but you, unfortunately, don’t reflect that particular identity “enough.” You’re not “working-class enough,” or not “middle-class enough.” You’re not “gay enough,” or not “straight enough.” You’re not “feminine enough” or “not masculine enough.” You’re not “white enough,” “Latino enough,” “Black enough,” or “Asian enough.”

You’re too spiritual, or you’re not spiritual enough. You’re too smart, or not smart enough. You’re too serious, or not serious enough. You’re too plain, or not plain enough. You don’t have the “it” factor–or you shine way too much that you’re perceived as a threat.

You’re too this and not good enough at that. Or you’re too that and not good enough at this.

Hear The Judgment and Do It Anyway

Inevitably, in this world, you’ll be told many times that you’re too much of something or too little of something else.

You will always be judged.

So, just hear that judgment and do it anyway.

Whatever it is that you’re pursuing in life, whatever success you’re trying to accomplish, whatever passion it is that you want to engage in–expect others to judge you. Expect them to point out all the ways they think you are unworthy or incapable of accomplishing the task. Expect others to never be satisfied with who you are.

Expect them to judge you and then do it anyway: pursue your passion, live out your dreams, become a success.

As if it wasn’t enough that others judge you, there will always be a little, mean voice inside your head that’ll always tell you that you’re too much of something, or too little of something else.

That little mean voice inside you, just like others in this world, will always judge you.

Expect that voice to judge you and then just do it anyway:  engage in your passion, fulfill your dreams, and succeed.

Someone, or some part of you, will always find some way to tell you that you’re not good enough and never will be.

But that judgment only has power over you if you let it.

So, as soon as you hear the judgment, instead of believing it and giving up, keep moving forward.

Just hear the judgment and do it anyway.

Afterward, you might find that your “naivety” is your greatest strength. That your “outdated” experience is a gold mine. That your idealism is your savior. That your realism will get you to true progress. That, skinny or fat, you’re perfect. That, old or young, you have infinite potential.

You might find that what others (and you) perceive as your greatest weakness is, in fact, your greatest asset. In all those judgments people throw at you, you might even find clues to exactly what makes you great.

much love,

Ollin

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28 comments on “Hear The Judgement And Do It Anyway

  1. Laura Riddle says:

    Thanks. Needed the encouragement.

  2. Christina says:

    I’ve found that when people judge you, it’s more a reflection of who they are and what they’re unhappy about, than something having to do with you.

    Didn’t Eleanor Roosevelt say “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

    She was totally, 1000% right.

    • Ollin says:

      Really, really great point Christina. I knew that but I had forgotten about it. Good to be reminded. And I love that quote from E. Roosevelt. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Nancy Sima says:

    So LOVE this post Ollin! You have a gift for sharing what so many need to hear and remember. Thank you.

  4. Colline says:

    I dig deep down inside of myself to find the inner belief that what I am doing/have done is correct. It is not always easy to find but it often makes me more confident of what I am doing.

  5. Barb Riley says:

    What do *I* do? I seek out encouraging blogs like this one, and bask in the glow that is Olin Morales, and feel a little less alone when I read these words that are like water to my thirsty creative soul! Thanks Olin! This was the perfect thing I needed to read today! Especially the words below:

    “Afterward, you might find that your “naivety” is your greatest strength. That your “outdated” experience is a gold mine. That your idealism is your savior. That your realism will get you to true progress. That, skinny or fat, you’re perfect. That, old or young, you have infinite potential.

    “You might find that what others (and you) perceive as your greatest weakness is, in fact, your greatest asset. In all those judgments people throw at you, you might even find clues to exactly what makes you great.”

    • Ollin says:

      Thank you Barb. That is so nice of you to say. Oh, and don’t forget that’s Ollin with two “l’s” not one. No worries. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  6. ceciliag says:

    It always happens when you are writing. You write merrily for a while, sometimes more than a while and then you look at the work and say, Oh dear. Then, as you say Ollin, you must be very careful not let the Oh Dear become a Full Stop. Writing through our own insecurities is important.

    Most important is believing that mine is the only voice that can speak as I do. We are individual and that is the very essence of our power.

    This was a great post, Ollin, and very useful in helping us all write our way through. And now I must stop procrastinating and sitting around saying Oh Dear and get back to work! I enjoy your pages.. c

  7. Alexis says:

    People have often judged me based on gossip—sometimes my friends, sometimes strangers. Sadly, the gossipers always tell their side of the story, and few people bother to ask for the other side. In this way, people often get judged harshly without even knowing it! It’s one thing to battle the negativity; it’s another not to have any defenses.

    We do what we can with what we have, and we keep moving forward.

  8. mzem says:

    Here, here. I know of what you write about. I used to work for a newspaper. They never liked what I wrote. By the time they edited my piece, it was no longer my work. This is why I blog. Granted, I edit what I write, watch the punctuation, and the tenses and verbs. But, the work is mine and I do it anyway even if I was told I’d never be a writer.

  9. Catherine Johnson says:

    The first half of this post reads like a beautiful poem. I feel all empowered now, thanks so much for your wise words Ollin.

  10. Very thoughtful inspiring post!
    It depends. Sometimes when people comment on my height (I’m 147 cm) I get easily hurt – it’s the hardest judgement! But about other things like personality traits I simply don’t care because I know I’m like that and I like that and I don’t want to change🙂
    It’s very hard though.. but well life asks us to be strong!

  11. spinx says:

    NIKE said it best, didn´t they?

    —————–Just do it——————————-

    I too used to think that I was too old (25) to start writing now, to get better, to actually make it work. For a year that used to block me, but then I just started writing. Or better yet, planning, and thinking about structure and all that.

    One month passed, I was still as bad. Then the second month passed- I was just as bad, but suddenly there was light. Another month passed, and another- and now, seven months later, I am still not much better, but I now KNOW that I can get better, if only I continue working hard.

    ——————————

    (Ollin, ever thought of using all of your posts so far and bundle them in a book?)

    • Ollin says:

      Hey spinx,

      Yes, I have thought about that, en eBook for the C2C. It does take a lot of time and effort to do it. But I am hoping to come up with something soon. Not sure, if I get a lot of requests like this one that might motivate me more.😉

  12. You’ve hit the nail on the head with the power of positive thinking,Ollin. I’ve learned that the judgement of others often times says more about them than about me( as Christina noted above).Growing up, I often felt badly about being the shy, sensitive type. One day, as an adult, my father said “Well, the world will just have to adjust to who you are.” That changed my whole perspective and what I once thought was my biggest liability turned out to be one of my greatest asset. Very thought-provoking. Thanks~ You always seem to get me going when I read your posts!🙂

  13. Julie says:

    One advantage of getting older is caring less and less about what other people think and say. At 40, I am far less likely to be plagued by self-doubt based upon others’ comments than I was at 30 or 20. It’s quite liberating! I just wish I could have gotten to this place sooner.

    • Ollin says:

      You know a lot of 40+ readers have told me this. I really think youth is overrated. I’m in my 20’s now and I thought it was going to be the best time ever, but really it’s a time of huge growth and coming into one’s own. It can be as awkward and as painful as puberty. I’m not saying I am not grateful. I feel very blessed to still be young. But I really do believe that if our culture should be obsessed with an age group it really shouldn’t be 20 or teenagers. It should be people who are more mature and wise. That’s the age group I’m obsessed with emulating. But that’s just my opinion.

  14. Sunshine says:

    I enjoyed reading this post and agree with you on that “little mean voice” which judges relentlessly if left unchecked! Thanks for the conversation…..you just assisted me in sending my ‘lil meanie voice back into its own bubble.

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