You’ll be told that you’re too naive.
Or that you’re too experienced in “the old, outdated ways.”
You’ll be told that you’re too idealistic. Or far too realistic.
You’ll be told that you’re too skinny, or too fat. Too old, or too young. Too nice, or not nice enough.
You’ll be told that you’re too rich, or not rich enough. You’ve suffered too much in your life, or you haven’t suffered enough. You don’t know the right people, or you’re way “too connected” to all the right people. You’re too tall, or you’re too short. Or you don’t live in the right country, or don’t go to the right school. Or you do live in the right country or go the right school but it’s way too competitive—and no matter how hard you try you won’t be able to make it.
You’ll be told that you don’t have the right upbringing, or you don’t have the right gender, or sexuality, or race. Or you’ll be told that you do have the right upbringing, the right gender, the right sexuality, or race, but you, unfortunately, don’t reflect that particular identity “enough.” You’re not “working-class enough,” or not “middle-class enough.” You’re not “gay enough,” or not “straight enough.” You’re not “feminine enough” or “not masculine enough.” You’re not “white enough,” “Latino enough,” “Black enough,” or “Asian enough.”
You’re too spiritual, or you’re not spiritual enough. You’re too smart, or not smart enough. You’re too serious, or not serious enough. You’re too plain, or not plain enough. You don’t have the “it” factor–or you shine way too much that you’re perceived as a threat.
You’re too this and not good enough at that. Or you’re too that and not good enough at this.
Hear The Judgment and Do It Anyway
Inevitably, in this world, you’ll be told many times that you’re too much of something or too little of something else.
You will always be judged.
So, just hear that judgment and do it anyway.
Whatever it is that you’re pursuing in life, whatever success you’re trying to accomplish, whatever passion it is that you want to engage in–expect others to judge you. Expect them to point out all the ways they think you are unworthy or incapable of accomplishing the task. Expect others to never be satisfied with who you are.
Expect them to judge you and then do it anyway: pursue your passion, live out your dreams, become a success.
As if it wasn’t enough that others judge you, there will always be a little, mean voice inside your head that’ll always tell you that you’re too much of something, or too little of something else.
That little mean voice inside you, just like others in this world, will always judge you.
Expect that voice to judge you and then just do it anyway: engage in your passion, fulfill your dreams, and succeed.
Someone, or some part of you, will always find some way to tell you that you’re not good enough and never will be.
But that judgment only has power over you if you let it.
So, as soon as you hear the judgment, instead of believing it and giving up, keep moving forward.
Just hear the judgment and do it anyway.
Afterward, you might find that your “naivety” is your greatest strength. That your “outdated” experience is a gold mine. That your idealism is your savior. That your realism will get you to true progress. That, skinny or fat, you’re perfect. That, old or young, you have infinite potential.
You might find that what others (and you) perceive as your greatest weakness is, in fact, your greatest asset. In all those judgments people throw at you, you might even find clues to exactly what makes you great.
What do you do when others are unfairly judging you or your decisions? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments below!
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