I know. You’re afraid.
But don’t worry. You’re gonna be okay.
Listen to me. I want you to remember all of your joys. Pay attention to all the good memories you have ever known. Pay attention to all the lovely and kind words that have ever been said to you. Collect all the smiles. Bring them close to you, and let these smiles warm you. Know that it is in your power to turn this dark moment into light.
I know. They were mean to you.
People can be mean. But just know, they are afraid, too. Very afraid. If they were braver, they would just admit that they were afraid, but instead, they would rather attack you and make you feel bad. Don’t pay them any mind, and stick to those who say sweet things to you.
I know. The world is big and scary.
But love is always with you. Remember love’s power, always, and remember that you can unleash its magic at a moment’s notice. Even though the world is a crowded, confusing, and scary place sometimes–with people who seem so cold on the surface–remember that love never leaves you, and this should give you great comfort.
I know. You don’t think you’ll succeed.
But what if I said success was already yours? What if waking up everyday to write that book, or string together that verse, or punch out that play, is an act of triumph all its own? What if there were awards for simpler, quieter, acts of courage? What if you can see the triumph hidden within all the small things you did today? What if you can get a prize for going out and having the courage to be creative–and be your true self? What if there was a reward for an act of bravery other than saving someone else’s life–what if there was a reward for saving your own? In fact, rewards for quiet, simple acts of creative bravery do exist and you can start giving them to yourself today.
I know. Nobody believes in you.
But really, the only thing you need is for you to believe in yourself. Once you believe in yourself, you can accomplish anything.
I know. Nobody understands you.
But that’s okay. Just trust yourself. If you trust yourself, then it doesn’t really matter if nobody understands you at the moment–it just matters that you follow what moves you the most right now. (Those who don’t understand will come around eventually.)
I know. You think that success will change you.
But success can only change you if you let it. You’ll always have control. You’ll always have a choice. Your life is yours and yours alone. If you are not true to yourself, YOU will know it. And in the end, we are our only judge. And we will create the punishment that fits any crime we believe we have committed against ourselves. Success won’t change you. Because you won’t let it.
I know. You think your success will change others.
If you are worried that success will change the way others treat you, simply remember those who were with you when you failed, when you didn’t have anything to your name, when you were broken and lower than a bottle in the gutter. These are the people to trust, these are the people who will not change. Keep them close and let them keep you grounded. You deserve success, so if others should change in a negative manner, let them. You keep going strong.
I know. You think that you are not worthy of executing the task.
But trust that something bigger than you is wiser than you and is guiding you every step of the way. Trust that life will provide the tools you need to execute the task at hand and will introduce you to the people you will need that will help you move closer and closer to your destiny. Trust the process of life as it unfolds uniquely for you, like a compass leading you to the shore.
I know. You think you are alone.
The way to overcome your loneliness is to speak up first, so that others, who experience what you experience, will have the courage to reply. They will hear your cry of help or pain, and they will recognize it as their own cry of help or pain–and they will be your echo as you lead a chorus of voices who feel the exact same way as you do. Loneliness in the end is only an illusion. It is a barrier we have pulled up between us all so we don’t see how frighteningly similar we really are. Speak up first, reach out second, and feel the warmth of others around you.
I know. You have your doubts.
But hold on to the certainties you have, and they will carry you past (and over) any doubts.
I know the world seems chaotic, and everything is changing.
But as the world changes know that you have the capacity to change with it, and in changing with it, you may find that the great transformation is happening directly to your benefit.
I know, in the midst of everything that plagues you and the world, you feel that your work is meaningless.
But when you think about it, you might find that even in the face of chaos, your writing is incredibly meaningful. Don’t give up, because the world needs your ability to create a new and better version of itself.
I know. These are some very hard times.
But even the worst of times must pass and give way to better ones. Just have faith, and you might see that there is still some hope yet.
Don’t worry. You’re gonna be okay.
Better times are coming, and in the meantime:
We’ll make it through this together. I promise.